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  • Writer's picturePremanandhan Narayanan

Supporting, Not Saving: The Importance of Allowing Loved Ones to Face Their Own Challenges

When our relatives and friends face difficulties or challenges, it is natural for us to want to support them. However, it is important to recognize that there is a distinction between providing support and saving them from their problems. Life often presents us with challenges as a means for personal growth and learning. By rescuing our loved ones without their active participation or effort, we deprive them of the opportunity to learn valuable lessons from those challenges.


Each person has their own journey in life, and part of that journey involves facing and overcoming obstacles. While we can certainly offer support, guidance, and encouragement, it is crucial to allow our relatives and friends to confront their challenges on their own. Taking on the entire responsibility for solving their problems not only robs them of personal growth but also undermines their sense of agency and self-confidence.





True assistance lies in being there for them, listening to their concerns, providing emotional support, and offering advice or suggestions when appropriate. By doing so, we empower them to take ownership of their situation and discover their own solutions. This approach respects their autonomy and fosters their personal development.


It is worth noting that this perspective does not imply a lack of empathy or concern for our loved ones. On the contrary, it recognizes the importance of individual growth and the need for everyone to face their own challenges. By standing beside them, we can offer encouragement, understanding, and a sense of security. We can be a source of strength as they navigate their difficulties and help them build resilience and confidence along the way.


Ultimately, by supporting rather than saving our relatives and friends, we promote their personal growth, independence, and self-reliance. We become allies in their journey, providing a strong foundation for them to overcome obstacles and learn from their experiences.


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